Blueberry Pancakes & Duvet Days: Nurturing Kids’ Wellbeing

The Importance of Duvet Days: Prioritizing Mental Health for Families in Malta

The other morning, as I sipped on my herbal tea, I made a decision that some parents might find controversial. I called my daughter Liberty’s school and left a brief message: she wouldn’t be coming in that day. Liberty, seven years old, needed a “duvet day” for her mental health. There wasn’t a specific reason—I could tell she just needed a break. She rated her mood as “six out of 10” and gave me that unmistakable look that said she needed some extra care. So I tucked her back into bed with her favourite fleece Squishmallows blanket and Labubu stuffed toy, brought her a plate of homemade pancakes (blueberry and oat, because they’re her favourite and nutritious), and handed her a warm mug of chamomile tea. The day was hers—a chance to recharge, decompress, and enjoy some comfort without the pressures of school or routine.

Some might label this parenting approach as indulgent or overly lenient, but I see it differently. Here in Malta, we’re increasingly aware of the importance of mental health—not just for adults but for children too. Studies show that parents who allow their children “mental health days” see improvements in their overall happiness and behaviour. Research by Perspectus Global reveals that 75% of parents have given their children duvet days for mental health reasons, with nearly half doing so regularly. For many families, these days off are not just a matter of staying home; they might involve visiting relatives, enjoying an outing to the cinema, or even a fun lunch at a favourite restaurant.

It’s a concept that fits seamlessly into Malta’s lifestyle, where community and food are central to well-being. Imagine taking a duvet day to enjoy a leisurely family lunch at a cozy café in Valletta or indulging in a nutritious Mediterranean meal featuring fresh fish, whole grains, and vibrant vegetables. Food has a profound impact on mood, and Malta’s culinary scene offers endless opportunities to nurture both body and mind. For children, even something as simple as a homemade bowl of soup or a plate of pasta can provide comfort and joy, while parents take the opportunity to model healthy eating habits.

The conversation around school attendance often overlooks the fact that every child is unique. While Liberty occasionally needs a break, my older daughter Lola, nine, is the opposite—she refuses to miss school, even when she’s feeling unwell. It’s a reminder that parenting isn’t one-size-fits-all. As children navigate the ups and downs of growing up, it’s vital for parents to tune into their individual needs, whether that means encouraging them to stick with routine or giving them space to reset.

The importance of mental health days becomes even clearer when we look at the pressures children face at school. In Malta, schools are wonderful places for learning and growth, but they can also be socially and emotionally demanding. From early mornings to long days to the occasional drama with classmates, it’s easy to see how children can become overwhelmed. Pair this with the common fatigue caused by sugary snacks or inadequate lunches, and it’s no wonder children sometimes crave a break. One way families in Malta can combat this is by focusing on nutrition both at home and in their choices when dining out. A healthy, balanced diet rich in whole foods supports mental clarity and emotional resilience, making it easier for children to handle daily challenges.

It’s worth noting that Malta’s restaurant scene has embraced the shift toward wellness. From smoothie bowls and avocado toast to hearty vegetable stews and grilled fish, there are plenty of options for parents who want to prioritize their family’s health when eating out. Restaurants like these can be part of a child’s “duvet day,” offering a change of scenery and a chance to feel special. After all, food is more than just fuel—it’s a way to connect, celebrate, and heal.

Of course, I’m not suggesting that frequent school absences are the solution. Attendance is important, and severe truancy rates should not be ignored. But occasional mental health breaks? They can be transformative. According to the study, 22% of parents believe that taking the occasional day off has no long-term negative effects on their child’s life, and 32% have become more relaxed about absences since the pandemic. With many parents now working from home, it’s easier to accommodate these days without added stress. Some even argue that a more personalized and engaging learning experience—one that incorporates game-based activities and interactive methods—could reduce the need for these breaks altogether.

As the end of term approaches, children often feel the effects of burnout. Long days, school politics, and the pressure to perform can take a toll. A simple day off, filled with comfort food and quality family time, can provide the reset they need. In Malta, where the Mediterranean lifestyle emphasizes balance, community, and nourishment, duvet days don’t feel out of place. They align with the values many of us hold dear—prioritizing well-being, fostering connections, and enjoying life’s simple pleasures.

So yes, I’ll continue to give my children duvet days when they need them. Whether it’s a morning spent lounging in bed with a warm plate of whole-grain pancakes or an afternoon exploring Malta’s culinary treasures, these moments matter. They’re not about indulgence—they’re about kindness, care, and recognizing that sometimes, the best way to support our children is to give them a break.